Why Being a Stubborn Ass can Be Good and Bad for Working At Home

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So, I talked about how I blew my savings and still had no way of coming back from that. When I talk to people about that situation, many of them ask me this: “Why didn’t you just get a job to keep your house?”

Yes, I was kicked out of my home. That was a mistake on my end and I should’ve listened and got a job, but I didn’t. I was determined to make money by working at home without giving into a regular job. However, despite how determined I was, there were things I should have done to keep myself afloat. It took me time to realize my mistake.

Why I kept falling (Things to avoid)

I kept falling and failing because I was stubborn. To keep my house and car (yes, that was towed), I should have had a part-time job. Or, I should not have spent my entire savings. If you don’t see that money coming in quickly, do something about it. Find that part-time job and do your business on the side.

My pride was too swollen at the time, and I was angry at corporate America. So, I vowed to never get a job (not even a part-time job) outside of my home again. That was a moment I should have put away my pride and stubbornness to help myself stay afloat rather than lose those things.

Why I kept getting back up (Things to keep doing)

You may think that after being evicted, having my car towed, and destroying my credit that I would just roll over and give in—I didn’t. I knew I could make this work; I just needed to figure out what I was doing wrong. Honestly, I discovered I had so much more to learn, and much of it I learned the hard way as a freelance writer. If you’re interested in pursuing freelancing writing as a way to make money at home, check out my list of preferred links below. It’s easier than scrounging around for help and knowledge as I did.

Don’t have what it takes to start or manage a small business? Take a course. I ended up taking an online college program and received my degree in business and marketing to manage it better.

Read these two books: Elements of Style and Woe is I. Two great books for grammar help!

For marketing your writing, landing big gigs, and getting more exposure try these wonderful ladies: Linda Formichelli (The Renegade Writer) and Carol Tice (Make a living Writing & Freelance Writers Den)

Into Blogging? This is my favorite British dude for blogging: Tom Ewer (Leaving Work Behind)

Need writer support, step-by-step help, encouragement, and not to mention some way cool friends? Try this group. They are AWESOME! (Kingdom of PaidALot)

Practice. That’s probably the best advice I can give. Since writing is my primary source of income, I learned to get better at my craft. I found that the more I wrote (even pieces that were crap) the better I got at it. No one is born a writer: Writers are made.

Achieve Big Goals by Doing Smaller Ones

When I started my work at home venture I wanted to make $5,000 a month in three months! Yeah, not realistic for a noob like me. But, it is doable. It just takes time and the right mindset. When I continued getting discouraged by not reaching my main goal, I began breaking them up into smaller ones.

Smaller goals are much easier to achieve. You will feel accomplished after meeting or surpassing them. Instead of shooting for $5,000 or even $1,000, I instead made my goal $300. That goal was much simpler to make in a month and when I met it, I studied my methods to make more without killing myself.

I am still reaching for $5,000 a month, which is my main goal. Keep your main goal in mind, but make yourself smaller goals to reach. This keeps your determination strong and your excitement high.

The Secret to Make Working at Home Successful

Working at home is not what scammers make it out to be, but there is a secret to working from home. A MAJOR secret that many might not know exists. I’ll tell you that secret right now.

The secret to working from home and making good money is hard work and dedication.

Did ya catch that? Read it again. Hell, say it aloud. Say it over and over until it sticks in your head. If you’re under the delusion that you’ll make wads of cash just working four hours every week, you’re wrong.

Working at home also requires a bit of stubbornness and determination. But, not to the point you lose important necessities such as your house and car. And, just like anything you aspire to achieve, I believe you don’t get anywhere without a little bit of stubbornness.

My thoughts

My stubbornness did get in my way at times during my writing venture, mostly because I wouldn’t give up and sometimes bugged editors with questions. I learned a lot from an editor who was very patient and she gave me so much good advice, I had no idea it would turn me onto a path I could never leave. But that’s another story.
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Author:Nida Sea

Since 2008 I've been creating content for clients large and small. My goal is to promote your company's brand. Your success is my success.

79 Responses to “Why Being a Stubborn Ass can Be Good and Bad for Working At Home”

  1. February 3, 2014 at 9:04 pm #

    Aaah such an amazing experience Nida! but one thing for sure you are not alone ! :D Keep writing Nida san! :)

  2. nidasea
    February 3, 2014 at 9:27 pm #

    Thanks, Nell! I’m hoping to help those who want to work at home to avoid these disastrous mistakes I made. Hope it works! :)

  3. Neil Eldred
    February 3, 2014 at 11:15 pm #

    Great post Nida. I think stubbornness is required for any writing but especially trying to make a living at home. You have to be disciplined cause there’s always a reason to do something else. I find that setting times when I’ll be in the chair help, otherwise I feel guilty. Thanks for the great links!

    • nidasea
      February 3, 2014 at 11:19 pm #

      Thanks, Neil! Yes, I completely agree. I’ve only recently begun setting work times that are strictly just for working. Before setting a schedule, it was sheer chaos! I truly appreciate your comments! :)

  4. February 11, 2014 at 3:00 am #

    Hi Nida,

    You said two words that caught my attention: ‘hard work’ and ‘dedication.’ You have these nailed. Yes, you learned from being stubborn, but in your case, you obviously turned your stubbornness into very strong business skills that are catapulting you forward. That’s amazing to me. You are such an admirable example of what it takes to freelance and I’m proud to know you.

    This, like your last post, was motivating and empowering. Thanks so much.

    • nidasea
      February 11, 2014 at 3:28 am #

      Hey Lynn!

      Thanks so much for your comment! I truly appreciate it! :)

      I have lots more stories coming. Some are not so easy to bear and others are just plain stupid mistakes I made. But hey, I want to share it with the world, and if I can help at least one person to succeed in their endeavors, then I’ve accomplished my goal.

  5. February 18, 2014 at 12:20 am #

    I loved this piece; truly inspiring! Keep it up Nida!

    • nidasea
      February 18, 2014 at 12:22 am #

      Thanks, Jeremy! Yup, there’s much more to come! The whole world will get to see just how badly I failed with working at home, and then I suddenly succeeded. Huh, imagine that.. :D Appreciate the comment!

  6. February 19, 2014 at 2:46 am #

    Great success often comes from failure first….been there! Thanks for the post!

    • nidasea
      February 19, 2014 at 3:30 am #

      Isn’t that the truth? Thanks for your comment! ;)

  7. February 19, 2014 at 4:29 pm #

    Great advice! In six weeks I’m leaving my job in corporate America to raise my sons, niece and nephew and I love what you said about hard work and determination. I will certainly use that as my mantra!

    • nidasea
      February 20, 2014 at 1:02 am #

      And I wish you all the best, Brianna! Understand that it will get hard, so don’t give up! It may seem like everything is crashing down, but you’d be surprised that all your efforts, no matter how small, will always pay off. Thank you for your comments!

  8. February 19, 2014 at 4:33 pm #

    Way to stick with trying to make your blog successful. Hopefully you are able to make a major go at it!

    • nidasea
      February 20, 2014 at 1:02 am #

      Thanks, Lydia! I’m working it as best to my current knowledge. With the more I learn about blogging and engaging readers, I’m sure it’ll continue to grow. Your comment is much appreciated!

  9. February 19, 2014 at 5:11 pm #

    Some people things Work-At-Home Momma’s have it so easy but what they may not realize is that it does take hard work, dedication, & discipline. It is a constant work in progress but you’ve given some great tips. Thanks

    • nidasea
      February 20, 2014 at 1:05 am #

      Hi Tamara! Your comment rings so true! I’ve ran into past co-workers at the grocery store who ask what I do now. I tell them and they scoff and say, “Wow, must be nice that you’ve got it easy.” I shrug and tell them, “That’s what you think, but try it and you’ll be singing a different tune.” lol! Thank you for your comment!

  10. February 19, 2014 at 7:04 pm #

    That’s it isn’t it Hard Work and Dedication, you can’t play around. it takes patience, time and hard work.

    Inspiring post!

    Marjorie and Harvey

    • nidasea
      February 20, 2014 at 1:06 am #

      Hi Harvey and Marjorie! Yes, you must stay dedicated, and have patience and hard work. It was something I had to learn the hard way, but now that I know, I can’t stop! Your comment is greatly appreciated. :)

  11. February 19, 2014 at 10:04 pm #

    I like what you said about the small goals. I am on my 3rd blog, after giving up way too quickly on the first two. Patience, perseverance, and accepting there is always more to learn is what keeps me going.

    • nidasea
      February 20, 2014 at 1:07 am #

      Hey Michelle! Smaller goals have worked for me for a while now. I really like them much better than those humongous goals! And, this is actually my seventh blog, I think? I have six others, but I just made them, did a few posts and hid them away. Yeah, I need to dig those bad boys up! Thank you for commenting!

  12. February 19, 2014 at 11:32 pm #

    Sometimes losing everything is the best thing in the world because it sets you free. You realize there is nothing else to lose, and you can work towards your dreams without any more pressure or expectations. You’re inspirational, and this is a great post!

    • nidasea
      February 20, 2014 at 1:08 am #

      Hi Vita! I didn’t realize it then, but when I look back at it now, I am glad I lost everything. I felt cleansed, renewed, and freed. It was an experience, I’m telling you, but yeah I worked harder toward my goal. Thank you so much for your comments!

      • February 26, 2014 at 5:04 am #

        I think you are correct with feeling cleansed and free. Keep working! You are right about hard work and dedication! It takes so much but it’s also so rewarding when you have poured yourself into a project and it succeeds!

  13. February 20, 2014 at 3:46 am #

    Very interesting info. Keep up the hard work, it’s an inspiring venture.

  14. February 20, 2014 at 4:44 am #

    Thanks for all the great information and advice. Great reminder that hard work and determination are the way to reach goals.

  15. February 20, 2014 at 10:23 am #

    Very inspiring post! Thank you for all your advice. Breaking a big goal to smaller ones is the one that I need to take and use. I have been stubborn for years, and only recently I feel that I am finally on the right path of making money from working at home and also enjoying it!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:56 am #

      That’s what worked best for me. If you make a large goal and consistently fall short, you’ll only get discouraged. The smaller ones are easier to achieve. Glad you’re on the path you want to be on! :)

  16. February 20, 2014 at 11:12 am #

    What great advice. I wanted to learn more about freelance writing. Thank you for putting into bare reality! I am by no means a stellar writer and this is where my fear lies. I know in time and with practice I will get better but who would have thought I would have an option to make a little extra money! Thank you for your post!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:58 am #

      Hi Jennifer,

      I wasn’t a stellar writer either. It took several years for me to get better, and I’m still learning! I think of writing as an art; the more you practice it, the better you get at it. Thanks for your comment!

  17. February 21, 2014 at 12:06 am #

    Thanks for the reminder! I’ve been struggling along and slowly moving forward but sometimes it just gets so frustrating. I’ve learned I have to take a step back sometimes and remember why I need to be determined and work hard. Then it makes it easier to step back up to the plate and aim towards those big goals.

    Thanks for sharing your story. I look forward to hearing more of your trials to learn from and help us all to reach our goals.

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:59 am #

      Hi Kim,

      No problem! It can be a struggle, but if you persist, you can do it. At times, I was frustrated to the point I would shut down my PC and start hunting in the classifieds for jobs. lol! It happens, we all get frustrated now and again, but don’t let it stop you. Thanks for commenting!

  18. February 23, 2014 at 5:31 am #

    Great post – we sometimes have to struggle before we can find the wonderful rainbow. Hard work pays off in the end.

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 3:00 am #

      Hi Divachyk,

      Darn skippy! Thanks for commenting. ;)

  19. February 23, 2014 at 6:13 am #

    Hugs! From another WAHM I know it can be hard. There are days that I would give anything to get out of the house and have a 9-5 job but I know my dedication is helping my family in the long run so we keep going. Way to go for not giving up on your dream!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 3:01 am #

      Hi A. Kerr,

      Ah, then you know exactly what I speak of! Yes, I find myself staring blankly into nothing when I’m surrounded by my four walls. But, you must stay dedicated and never give up on your dreams! Thanks for commenting!

  20. February 23, 2014 at 3:46 pm #

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  21. February 23, 2014 at 5:43 pm #

    this is such a great, and needed post, especially for bloggers! I feel your pain. I went through a divorce, and lost my job with in the same year. and lost alot! I vowed as well to be work from home and start my own business.
    you hit it right on the head with Hard work and dedication.
    great post and great inspiration!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 3:03 am #

      Hi Nicole,

      I’m sorry you went through some hardships. It is tough when you lose things, especially a partner or income. Getting started is always a challenge and frightening for anyone going into business for themselves or blogging. No matter what your venture, you can do it! I believe in you! Thanks for commenting!

  22. February 23, 2014 at 7:27 pm #

    I’m too lazy and not very motivated some days – I have thought of working from home, I just have a lot going on right NOW that takes priority: we’re moving in a few weeks.

    After the dust settles, hubby and I are going away for a weekend and leaving our teen with his grandma. He’s going to work from home part-time. Maybe if he can stick with it (and I know he will), he’ll motivate me to do some thinking and looking and working!!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 3:04 am #

      Hi Patty,

      Sometimes it takes our children to give us a good example of what we need to do, and how we can become better role models for them. I wish him the best and you as well! You can do it if you truly want it! Thanks for commenting!

  23. February 23, 2014 at 9:12 pm #

    Hi Nida, great post! So sorry you’ve had such a rough time! I know that I have a goal of being able to work from home with my blog. I’m still working my full-time job though. I know it may take a very long time until I’m established as a blogger. Even then, I’m not sure I’d have the guts to quit my job. We’ll see what happens. I am working hard at it, spending nearly all my free time on my blog. That should get better once I have everything in place and I can concentrate on just blogging, but then again, that’s probably something that will always need tweaking. But I am stubborn and determined, so I do believe I’ll get there. Best wishes for your success!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 3:07 am #

      Hi Anastasia,

      Keep that FT job until you’re comfortable enough to let go! I cannot stress that enough! I look back at what happened so long ago and I kick myself for not keeping or getting a part-time job. Don’t let that be you! Your blog will take off, don’t worry. Keep at it and do the best you can! Thanks for commenting!

  24. February 23, 2014 at 11:22 pm #

    I enjoyed reading the positive outcome of this post. I could only imagine what you’ve been through, but I’m glad that everything has turned out for the best. This is great inspiration for others who are about to give up. Thanks for sharing your story and your determination for success.

  25. February 23, 2014 at 11:29 pm #

    Those are some good tips. It is so hard to find a work from home situation that works! I will have to remember that as I try it.

  26. February 24, 2014 at 4:43 pm #

    I really like your post. Most of all I like that you point out that it actually requires a lot of hard work and dedication. I would love to work from home. I’m just not there yet.

  27. February 24, 2014 at 8:45 pm #

    I am a WAHM and hard work and determination is key #1 but I think #2 is the Idea that Ignorance is curable….learn about everything you plan to attempt, from people who are pro’s and not just big talkers!

  28. February 24, 2014 at 9:52 pm #

    Thank you for sharing the lesson you learned. I love the plan for making attainable goals and slowly moving towards the bigger goal.

  29. February 25, 2014 at 2:15 am #

    Woe is I and Elements of Structure and Style are two of my FAVORITE books on writing. I also like Eats, Shoots, and Leaves by Lynne Truss.

    Your post was very helpful in that you are confirming something that I was thinking earlier this week. Sometimes we have to do what we love and what we are called to so often, and sometimes for free, till we actually get to that place where getting paid begins. But it all takes a lot of hard work.

    Thanks for the websites and the suggestions!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:23 pm #

      Hi Dawn,

      I love those two books! I was introduced to “Woe is I” from one of my many Comp II classes. I haven’t read Eats, Shoots, and Leaves, but I will pick it up now! Thanks for your comments!

  30. February 25, 2014 at 5:35 pm #

    Your story scared the daylights out of me and encouraged me at the same time! I just quit my day job to start my own pet care business and also dedicate more time to blogging. It is scary but I knew that I just needed to make the leap or I was never going to do it.

    I was tired of working for the man and having my confidence shook all of the time. One day I realized that, was how the company was controlling me. I am not afraid of hard work, I have been doing it for years but to someone else’s benefit, not my own!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:25 pm #

      Hi Liz,

      Sorry for the scare! It was pretty bad to endure, but I survived and have since come out on top. Being kept afraid only to be controlled is not the way any business should work. But, many of them do not follow the rules at all. I should know. In any case, go forward with your pet care business and blog, and I wish you the very best! Thanks for your comments!

  31. February 25, 2014 at 8:25 pm #

    Thank you for your comment about keeping the main goal high, but reaching for smaller ones. I’m such a dreamer…I take on too much and then crash. It’s kind of become a habit for me. I’m just now learning how to do the little things – and even enjoy the process, though I’m not where I want to be yet. Thank you for the inspiration!

  32. February 25, 2014 at 10:07 pm #

    I like to think I am more dedicated and driven :) It takes hard work and if you aren’t dedicated and driven, it will be hard to make it anywhere. Thanks for the post!

  33. February 25, 2014 at 10:30 pm #

    Great ideas here. I work at home and I work. I get to schedule my time, but it still takes a lot of dedication — as you said — and sit in the seat and finish projects. Best wishes!

  34. February 26, 2014 at 1:18 am #

    What is that saying – live and learn? We all make mistakes that we then learn from. It sounds like something I totally would do!

  35. February 26, 2014 at 4:31 am #

    So many people share your testimony. Many people come to me with mindsets that hinder their success online. I’ve also had people wanting to work with me because they had tried ‘everything’ to get that boat load of money in from their newly-created business and were now at risk of losing everything or filing bankruptcy. Bad energy.

    Rachel recently wrote Using the Oreo Cookie to Get Clients

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:33 pm #

      Hi Rachel,

      I must agree. I’ve met people who ask me how I do what I do and if I would teach them because they want to quit now. I tell them that they need their job and to rethink their work at home ideas. Going into it with the idea that money will just explode from your computer is irrational. However, I thought the same once upon a time, but I kept with it despite losing it all. I looked at it this way: Everything can be purchased again, pride can be rebuilt, and reputation renewed. So, here I am. :) Thanks for commenting!

  36. February 26, 2014 at 7:01 am #

    What an inspiring post! I’m sorry that you had to go through so much struggle and loss before getting to this point. But being so open about your past circumstances will give so many people out there the hope they need to continue to be stubborn and to keep moving forward. Your tips are great! Thank you!

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:34 pm #

      Hi DeBalino,

      It did suck, but that’s how I learn–sometimes. Sometimes you just have to crawl before you can walk. Thanks for commenting!

  37. February 26, 2014 at 3:41 pm #

    I’ve heard so many entrepreneurs say that they, too, hit a point where there was NO income. I’m glad things turned around for you. Many people give up at that point.

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:35 pm #

      Hi Mo,

      Oh, and how I wanted to so many times! But, something made me stick with it. Thanks for commenting!

  38. February 26, 2014 at 7:17 pm #

    I can relate with such loss. It’s a hard economy. I’m actually kind of okay about getting fired from my last job. I was 6 months pregnant and couldn’t handle it all with two kids at home and constant contractions. Of course that wasn’t good for my pockets. Especially since my husband had just injured himself at work. We lost a lot, but are now getting back up.

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:36 pm #

      Hi Desiree,

      I understand. The mishap of the economy in 2008 caused my position then to be eliminated. I was expected to go back to my old position, for less pay and still do more work. Yeah, I said no. Thanks for commenting!

  39. February 26, 2014 at 10:33 pm #

    You’re right – it takes hard work and dedication to have your own business and work from home. Like you said, stubbornness can be both good and bad. I can be a little stubborn too, so I know this firsthand:). Being stubborn might have gotten you into the situation you’re in, but I’m sure it will also get you out of it once you set your mind on something.

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:37 pm #

      Hi Teresa,

      Don’t we all have just a little bit of stubbornness? :) I honestly had to count on that to get me out of the hole I dug. It worked! Thanks for commenting!

  40. February 26, 2014 at 11:20 pm #

    Thanks for this post. I am a work at home mum now and compared to working full time from the office, this is so much harder. I really wish you all the best.

    Anne

  41. February 27, 2014 at 1:40 am #

    Good on you for not giving up. I’d love to make a living from my blog writing, but to begin with I’d settle for a bit of pocket money!

  42. February 27, 2014 at 2:45 am #

    First I am sorry you lost your home and car. I would not wish that on anyone. However it seems you learned from it and are even better for it as far as being realistic about your business and that is something to be very proud of. I enjoyed visiting your blog and I will be back. My goal is to become a full time writer so will also be checking out your links.

    • nidasea
      February 27, 2014 at 2:39 pm #

      Hi Tanai,

      It was a bad situation to endure, but I look back on it and now I’m glad I endured it. I learned what not to do and how to move forward. I’d love to have you back as a reader! There will be more links and information regarding freelance writing, so stay tuned! ;) Thanks for commenting!

  43. February 27, 2014 at 5:02 am #

    I appreciate your honesty, openness, insight — willing to help others to avoid making the “difficulty” for themselves!

    I wish I had someone who would be so very “blunt” with me…I know I would have a bit less “clutter” in relation to my blog…which I hope to someday turn into a job!

  44. February 28, 2014 at 1:30 am #

    I am sorry about the trials you have gone through, but it is great that you have learned from it! My husband works from home and he has learned the hard way that you really have to be dedicated and have time management skills!

  45. Neil Eldred
    March 11, 2014 at 5:59 pm #

    Great article Nida. Just what I need as I start my work from home journey. You make me realize I have to hustle if I’m going to make a living at this.

    Thanks for the inspiration.
    Neil

  46. April 4, 2014 at 7:58 pm #

    I sometimes envy the writers who have no steady or supplemental means of income. Their situation only forces them to try harder and work longer hours. Some writers are part-timers, who are financially secure in other professions, and who only dream about having that additional time to pursue their craft. So, where some writers are falling short in one sense, they are richly-rewarded in another.

    I have a lot of respect for people like you, nidasea, who have the courage and take the risk to throw their all into a pursuit of success. Just be careful not to trade the comfort of a cozy, warm home, and your health, for the joys of getting published.

    All good things come in time, to those who wait and believe they will.

  47. April 12, 2014 at 11:48 am #

    Hey Nida,

    I discovered this post through Carol Tice’s link party last week, and really enjoyed it! It’s great to hear that you’ve turned stubbornness to your advantage after going through so much.

    I started freelance writing full-time a few months ago and while it’s going slowly, I’m getting there. I’m eating up my savings while I build up my business, but I desperately don’t want to look for a part time job or get unemployment assistance. It would feel like giving in. Still, I guess I’ll have to get over that if I need to.

    Thanks for the reality check and the confirmation that being stubborn isn’t necessarily a bad thing!

    Gwen

  48. January 14, 2015 at 1:09 pm #

    Great post Nida. I think stubbornness is required for any writing, but especially trying to make a living at home. YOu really do need to be organized UHHHMMMM stubborn to get the job done. You are your own boss

  49. February 23, 2014 at 8:59 pm #

    Thanks for the great post. It brought back a lot of memories. I went through the same thing a few years ago because I was being very stubborn about wanting to be my own boss and work mostly from home. It can happen so quickly when you keep hoping tomorrow will just be a little better and then bam, you waited too long and lost something (or lost it all).

  50. nidasea
    February 27, 2014 at 3:06 am #

    Hi Dave,

    Did it now? I’m sure for many who started out suffered somehow. It’s never easy starting new, and it makes it harder when things just keep crashing down. But, there is always something better in store, you just have to keep reaching out to find out what it is. Thanks for commenting!

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